18 Feb 2008 04:53:24 | Virginia Bola, PsyD
Looking for a job involves a wide range of responsibilities:
preparing a resume, looking at ads, contacting employers,
calling and visiting friends and acquaintances, follow ups,
interviews. While none of us ever plan to be out of work for
very long, it can be very useful to immediately start
documenting your activities and your feelings to provide a road
map of where you have been and where you want to go. It helps to
have a central location for recording your daily actions so you
don't miss anything important or forget a critical deadline. It
is also reassuring to have somewhere to go when you're feeling
blue and too lethargic to go anywhere or do anything you
consider "productive."
Start a job search diary right now. Even if you have been
unemployed for some time, start one anyway because a late start
is better than never doing it at all.
Take a plain old exercise book and title it: Job Search Diary.
Find a spot to keep it where it will always be close at hand
when you need it, probably several times a day.
If you are newly jobless, start out by recording your feelings.
Writing out (keep it simple, it's not the great American novel)
what you are thinking, in black and white sentences, helps to
sort out your jumbled emotions, clear your mind, and reach a
better understanding of your inner self. Jot down your anger,
your fears, what you expect, what you secretly dread. Pouring
out your soul will release a lot of the inner tension you're
feeling and soothe your nerves.
This record is for you - no one else will ever see it - so you
can be brutally honest. If you fear you are a loser who will
never amount to anything, write it out. If you think you're
really a good, competent worker but your old boss was a jerk or
the company sucked, put it down.
If you have been out of work for a while, make your initial
entries a recap of what has been happening in your life since
you lost your job. Trace the sequence of events and see if you
can remember how you felt at different times. There were
probably times when you were overwhelmed and stressed out:
record when you felt that way and, if you can recall, what
activities you were engaged in when those feelings appeared.
There were also probably times when you felt hopeful or elated.
Record that too and what events were connected with such
emotions.
Use your diary as a place to plan what you want to do. List all
activities that you are going to perform that will get you back
to work. You might initially plan on updating your resume and
reading the classifieds to gauge the state of the labor market.
If you are further along in the job search, you might list some
networking targets or identify some employers where follow up on
earlier contacts might be beneficial. Frequently, throughout the
day, record what you did, who you talked to, how you felt.
This is going to become your Special Place where you have a
record of your journey from the badlands of unemployment to the
green fields of regular work. Visit it often to keep updating
your plans, record your smallest successes and failures, and
unload your emotional baggage.
When you can't bear the thought of one more telephone call
leading to one more rejection; when you can't find the energy to
get dressed up to visit an agency or cold-call an employer; when
you can't stand the sight of another misleading ad or internet
job site; then reach for the comfort of your journal. Read over
what you have written and see the changing moods of your long
pilgrimage. See if you can identify a pattern. What were you
doing when you felt despondent and alone? What were you doing
when you felt upbeat and positive about the future? Concentrate
on your own specific actions, not merely your reaction to
outside events. If you can find a thread relating what you do to
how you feel, you have found a valuable key for managing your
hunt for work. You now know what to do to feel pretty good and
what not to do to avoid a recurrence of despair.
Maintain your diary throughout your job search and it will
become an increasingly rich source of information about you and
your inner self. It will challenge you to get active and it will
comfort you when you just want to curl up into a ball and turn
your back on life.
When your final exultant entry is made - I got a job! - find a
quiet time to completely read through all the entries to give
yourself a full appreciation of how far you have come and how
hard you have worked for your eventual success. Give yourself a
mental pat on the back for hanging in there and never accepting
defeat.
Then close it up and lock it away in a safe place. If you ever
find yourself jobless again (and it happens to many of us over
and over), take it out. Reread it for the insights you will
gain, and the mistakes you'll be able to avoid, in your next
(probably shorter) job search campaign.
About Author :
Virginia Bola operated a rehabilitation company for 20 years,
developing innovative job search techniques for disabled
workers, while serving as a Vocational Expert in Administrative,
Civil and Workers' Compensation Courts. Author of an interactive
and supportive workbook, The Wolf at the Door: An Unemployment
Survival Manual, and a monthly ezine, The Worker's Edge, she can
be reached at http://www.unemploymentblues.com