There is a lot of talk about The Ultimate Players lately: Who is The Ultimate Player? What Can I do to become The Ultimate Player?

I have personally never hidden my disgust and disdain for so-called players or pick-up artists. I find them to be modern world's scum of the worst kind, mainly because many of them deliberately try to destabilize, degrade, or diminish another person's self concept, world view, emotional control, awareness and interpretation of reality, in order to gain advantage over that person.

And please don't give me that crap about "women who want men they can dominate". I come from generations of warriors - 7 foot tall, all lean muscle with (you-know what) danggling all the way to the knee. Brave warriors who fight lions with just a spear (they don't come any more masculine than that!). The lowest low any warrior can go is attack someone who has fallen down. It is considered cowardice of the lowest order - one not even a scavenging vulture or hyena can stoop down to.

But this article is not about self-acclaimed players, it is about self-acclaimed "Nice Guys". This is "nice" not in the sense of sensitive and attentive but "nice" like in wimpy clingy compliant puppy dog kind of men.

Let me back up a little. There are two kinds of "Nice Guys." There is the "Nice guy" who is thoughtful, confident (emotionally, physically and sexually) and can be relied on to take charge and get things done. He is called "Nice" because he is sensitive, attentive and considerate. In other words he doesn't pretend to be the Alpha Male because he is also in touch with his feminine side. This is the rare breed of men. And ladies, if you've got one, hold on tight.

Then there is the "Nice guy" who exhibits some even slightly non masculine (and nonsexual) tendencies, which typically arise from a desire to be "sensitive, attentive and considerate" but quite often backfires because "Mr. Nice" often confuses "spineless" with "sensitive" and attentiveness with indecisiveness. These are guys who may have been raised by females who were very manipulative and controlling and as a result these men have not learned healthy ways of relating to women. But that's not the worst part, these "Nice Guys" have also become great at playing the "victim" role and use this to manipulate and control women in the worst possible imaginable ways.

Maybe you will say, "Wait a minute. Nice Guys could never ever manipulate or control a woman. They are the victims here". And that is where you are dead wrong. It might surprise you to learn that just as 'Players" advertise themselves as "dominant males", these "Nice Guys" advertise an identity of "Weak Victim. So called dominant males pride themselves in persuading and breaking down resistance. "Nice Guys" use "victimization" which interestingly appeals to women who have that natural instinct to "mother" and often want to "rescue" and "take care" of this poor, misunderstood, mistreated and abused "Nice Guy". This is the "Nice Guy's" position of power and control.

But I have to be fair. These "Nice Guys" on most part are not themselves even aware that they are caught up in the unconscious desire to feel victimized. All they know is that they're always clinging to the women that they're afraid of losing. They are always clinging to any slight indication of friendliness on a woman's part. They will stalk her, beg her, turn themselves inside out and even kiss ass, if that is what it takes for her to look their direction. They seem to never get a break, at least not enough "love" for them to feel like "not victim".

Like any kind of manipulation it comes back to bite "Nice Guy" ass, same as the "Alpha Male". Manipulative techniques attract equally manipulative women.

If you are acclaimed "Nice Guy" and really tired of chasing, begging and clinging, realize that it's never too late to change. Stop looking at your struggles right from childhood as "only pain and suffering" and realize that, that same pain and suffering also have endowed you with a sensitive side and has brought you in touch with your feminine side which is a very attractive quality to women - especially when it's not overdone like you do.

Give up the pride of feeling victimized, along with your secret hope to taste revenge for all the hurt and abuse you have ever suffered - and you could be living the relationship of your dreams. Meanwhile Mr. Alpha Male continues his quest for world domination! Ha!