Online Dating Advice: The Big problem

When you respond to an ad, posted by a lady, you

have to know that you are not the only one.

It's more likely that your the 35-th person that is

writing to her. I'd like to make a suggestion. Right

here, right now, log on to the web and register

yourself at match.com section as a lady (about 23

y/o, nice and slim).

Be sure that you use an e-mail that is not valuable

for you - getting a new free one for the purpose is a

good idea.

This is going to be a small experiment. After a

couple of days you'll find out two things:

Dating Tips 1 - It's cool to be a lady in the NET :)

Dating Tips 2 - The approximate number of people you are

competing with.

Something more important - you'll get the idea

about what are the other guys writing about. This is

valuable information.

Don't hesitate and be desperate if you get 40 emails

the first day from all sorts of guys willing to

go on a date with you.

I'll tell you how to make women think you differ

from them.

Online Dating Tip 1

The usual mistake

Well, let's suppose u did the experiment that I

suggested. I bet you'll find a couple dozens of

variations of the following:

"Hi! My name is Bob. I'm 2x/3x/4x..... y/o. I live in

PutTheName City. I'm (body measures & eye-hair

colour follows). I work at a ImagineSomeBusiness

Company. I like doing (this varies a lot). We might

give it a try if u r interested ;) Bob"

This sounds pathetic, doesn't it?

Bob is wasting his time.

Of course - he has his own chances.

If his job or hobby matches the lady's ones, he'll

probably get an answer. If also the lady is posting

an ad for the first time, and Bob is the first one to

answer, again he'll probably get a reply.

Pay attention to the word "first". 1 is the loneliest

number...

Where is he making a mistake?

Bob might be a cool guy, but he shows nothing of

it.

What he does is a simple announcing of facts. His

personality remains covered. As I said, he could be

a good psychologist, witty, emotional and educated

- whole bunch of features that women consider

valuable.

But if all this remains hidden behind these plain

body/work/hobby facts, it's quite easy for a lady to

decide that nothing of it exists... With other words -

Bob is wasting his valuable online time. As I said,

only the fact-match remains something that can

hook a lady.

This is something very thin to rely on...

Online Dating Tip 2

So, what to do?

The answer is simple - you have to put some

personality in your e-mail.

Once you do this, you can be sure that you can

leave an impression. If you manage to do this, your

work is done.

Remember the features I was talking aboutpsychologist,

witty, emotional and educated. You

have to convince the lady that you can think, have

sense of humour and you haven't missed the

classes at school.

Make her laugh, make her think; don't disturb her

with spelling mistakes and your chances to get a

reply increase dramatically. It doesn't matter if the

lady is educated or not - she wants you to be such.

Let me say a few words about each one of these

features....

Be a psychologist!

Online Dating Tip 3

When you e-mail a lady you have to show yourself

as a psychologist.

Well, how are you supposed to do this? Simple -

you have to make a small prediction that comes out

to be true.

First you have to read the lady's ad and gather all

the valuable information.

Try to understand what is the proper motivation for

her to post an ad. It might be stated directly - than it

is useless for you to mention it.

If she does not say it clear, then go for it - she'll be

pleased to hear that someone understands her. One

thing that you can always use is the fact that quite a

lot of people write something similar to the ad that

I showed you above.

You can predict that the lady is probably already

tired of ads, telling about heights, weight and eyecolour.

Say that you won't bother her with useless facts.

Promise to send her a picture instead in some of

your following letters.

Of course - do it if she replies. If you manage to

make such a "working" prediction, this will

convince the lady that the space between your ears

is not filled with air. You know, even if you are not

quite right, she might reply to tell where you are

wrong. This is also a base for conversation. Use it.

Be witty!

Showing some sense of humour - well, something

that is difficult to achieve sometimes. What I can

say is JOKE WITH YOURSELF, NOT WITH

HER! REMEMBER THAT! Don't use any of the

info that she gives as a material for jokes!

It might work, but it's more likely that you back the

lady off. Try to get her point of view - she'll say

"Who the hell is he to speak like that?!" Don't risk!

In the same time, you can always make laugh from

the way you look. Use phrases like "It could be

damn worse" or "I don't cover the mirrors with

sheets at my place" when talking about your

appearance.

It's a basic thing to show that you like yourself. If

you don't, well... this is a little bit far from the

topic of this article, but do an effort not to show it

(and constantly work to change this).

It's a basic statement that you have first to like and

love the person that you see in the mirror in order

the others to like and love you. Back to humour -

keep the lines that are supposed to make her laugh

unexpected and short.

Online Dating Tip 4

Telling long stories with funny end is not a quite

good idea - the end might not be that funny and the

whole reading might be in vain. Coming up with a

witty line at the moment of writing an e-mail is not

always possible.

It's a good idea always to keep your ears opened

for funny things, quotes, etc. Write them down the

moment you hear them, or when they come to your

mind.

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