When it comes to response/RSVP cards, the goal is to get a response. Whether selecting a card with a self-addressed, either by hand or computer printed labels, and pre-stamped envelope or an economic post card with your address on one side and the guest response on the other, do what works best for you.

You can personalize the response with a handwritten note or print it with standard or customized wording. A helpful hint for keeping the RSVP process on track and organized is to lightly number each card on the back and correspond it with a numbered guest list.

It is customary for the response cards to go to the host of the wedding, but the bride can request they remain sealed until the responses can be opened together.

The response card can be addressed to you as long as the address of the host appears on the back of the main envelope to indicate they formally sent the wedding invitation.

The caterer insists on a final guest count about a week before the wedding, so don’t be shy about calling those who haven’t sent in their RSVP by the set date.

Often close friends and family members assume you know they’re coming and they fail to even return the first phone call. Let a parent or your fiancé make the second call to communicate how sorry they are the guest will be unable to attend and how they hope to see them at another gathering soon. This usually brings forth a quick response from even the most dedicated procrastinator.

Creative wording for your wedding invitations is all about expressing yourself creatively and wedding invitation etiquette is a guide to expressing yourself appropriately.