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14 Mar 2008 02:21:23 | JSG
Nowadays, more and more people are turning to the web to find
their perfect match. As you might have heard, many have been
very successful and praise online dating as a miracle of modern
technology. Online dating does offer many advantages over its
in-person counterpart. You can browse many profiles in a short
time from the comfort of your own home. You can learn a lot
about a person before you even make first contact. The web also
offers a degree of anonymity that can quell some of the stress
associated with dating and can help you release some inhibitions
that might be present in traditional dating. Keep this advice in
mind as you seek romance on The Net: 1.Flirting is free — most
dating sites aren’t! Do a little research before you join a
dating site. Although most dating sites allow you to join free
and post a free profile, when you want to make contact the
charges begin. Some sites charge by the minute, some per
contact, and some have all-inclusive monthly fees. Knowing the
rules before you begin playing the game can save you from some
very unwelcome surprises and charges on your credit card
statement. 2.Are you “nice to know”? Your date needs to know!
Put time, effort and careful thought into building your dating
profile. Be truthful in describing both who you are and what you
are really looking for in a date. Certain nuances, especially in
humor, are lost when someone is reading a profile. Remember,
your smile or wink is not visible to the person reading your
profile. If you are looking for a serious relationship, state
that clearly. If you want to party with no strings attached,
make sure to convey that, too. The responses you receive will
relate directly to what you have stated in your profile. 3.You
don’t have to be a rocket scientist! It’s more important just to
be honest, be truthful, be yourself! Sometimes it is very
tempting to portray yourself as something you really aren’t but
remember that your goal in online dating is actually to meet
someone and build a friendship or relationship. Do you really
want to have to explain why you are 40 lbs. heavier or 4 inches
shorter than you disclosed in your profile? Even though meeting
for the first time is similar to a “blind date”, the other party
won’t be blind! Remember that you want someone to be interested
in you because of who you really are, not who you pretend to be.
4.Before you really reach out and touch someone… Make sure to
speak on the phone before your first face-to-face meeting. Any
one can sit behind a keyboard and type. A phone call helps you
better “see” the personality of the person who did the typing!
If your acquaintance is reluctant to talk on the phone, don’t
agree to meet. 5.“Caution is the most valuable asset in fishing…
especially when you’re the fish!” Be cautious when planning your
first meeting. Although chances are slim that you’ll meet a
shark, you still need to take some basic precautions. Tell an
off-line friend about your plans. Arrange a phone call with them
to “check in”. Either call them or ask them to call you on your
cell phone just to say “hi” and make sure all is well. Meet in a
public place the first time like a local coffee shop, mall, or
well-frequented park or other populated area. Try to arrange
your first meeting during the daytime. 6.How do you mend a
broken heart? Don’t be too disappointed if things don’t work out
the first time. If the chemistry isn’t there, although you may
not “click” as a couple, you still have met a new friend. Who
knows what benefits that could bring you down the road?
7.“Remember, you can’t change the direction of the wind, but you
can adjust your sails to reach your destination.” Don’t get
discouraged. Sometimes searching for your soul mate can make you
feel like a lost soul. When you start flirting with desperation
and bitterness, simply take a break from the dating scene.
Friends and family will help you remember that you are a
worthwhile, lovable person. When you regain your positive
attitude dive in again! In the end, it’s not the destination
that’s important; it’s the journey. Enjoy the ride and be happy!
About Author :
About the writer: JSG is a single father recently entering the
online dating game and editor of www.flirtingsecret.com, your
guide to flirting successfully!
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