Self-Worth; this is a word that is so much easier to say, and spell

then it is to feel!

Why do so many women feel that they have no self-worth? How did they lose it?

Is it because of the way the world has portrayed the perfect woman

today?

Is it because someone took it from them?

Is that the void some fill by over eating?

Did their partner breach a trust?

Did their partner fall into the grips of the world of pornography?

Does their partner demean them with insults about how they look?

Did their partner continuously admire other women?

Did they grow up being ridiculed by a family member?

Have they been suffering from a controlling illness?

Were they bullied and criticized through their school years?

Were they sexually abused as a child?

Were they laughed at in a moment of vulnerability?

Were they ever raped?

All of these experiences definitely play a part in pouring a woman's

self-worth right down the drain. The people causing these kind of

negative actions are totally responsible for tearing down a woman's

worth. To tear down a persons self-worth is one of the cruelest ways

to treat a human being. It is a no win situation for that person. They

cannot fight back. They are being attacked with a blindfold on. You

have succeeded in humiliating them, and you have won that battle.

Well, that's not a real brag story, because anyone can win against

innocence. The true win is when the battle turns around. The true win

is when the person who has lost their self-worth, stands up and takes

that control back.

For those of you that have been through this battle and are

struggling to just get up on an elbow, or feel empty inside and so

alone that you wonder why you even get up in the morning, you can beat

this!

Listen to me! You are not responsible for falling, or losing the

battle. But you are TOTALLY responsible for getting back up. Yes

that's right, it is you that has to pull it together. I know, it's a

joke to even think about it, but you need to go back as far back as

you can and find a place where in your mind that will make you smile.

If you cannot, then try to think of someone that you know that is

hurting more deeply that yourself and use that knowledge as your

motivation. Go there in your mind. Use that thought to give you a

reason to get up and pull yourself together. Your self-worth is worth

fighting for. You are as strong as your greatest strength. You will

always be stronger than your greatest weaknesses. Those weaknesses

will never win against your strengths.

You have been hurt and raped of one of your most sacred emotions,

self-worth. Now you want it back, so take it back. It is right there

inside of you. You just have buried it under all your dirty laundry,

so to speak. You can go on feeling empty if you want. Noone will care,

not for long anyway. You can continue to use drugs, alcohol, or even

food to fill that empty lonely void inside of you. You can miss out on

life because you are forgetting to fight and it is so much easier to

fall into the pity pit. You can spend the rest of every second

worrying that if you even try to gain back some of your self-worth,

you will fail and feel even more lonely. Well, you might just fail the

first try, the second and the third. You may even feel that it's

hopeless. If you give into that feeling, then you are letting yourself

down. You have now become responsible for losing your chance at

regaining your self-worth. You are allowing whatever it was that tore

you apart in the first place to take control of your everything. You

are allowing a memory to defeat you. There is no person there now;

it's just a thought. A memory that you are allowing to ruin what

little time you have on this earth. Why are you doing that? You know

you can stop it. You know how! I have repeated myself so many times

and I will continue to repeat this. -HABITS- positive habits of

thinking. You must reconstruct your thought patterns to think WIN..not

to think LOSE! You must make a new commitment to yourself, one that

you can reach out and touch!

I understand the strength of negative thinking, and I have felt its

power many, many times. To the point that I could hardly feel myself

breathe. That was when I knew that I, and only I could stop it. It was

inside of me. It was not standing beside me or next to me or behind

me. It was ME! Inside of you, is where you must look and dig for the

real you. Not the you that has been scarred and hurt, but the you that

can smile and laugh and appreciate all the good things in life. There

still are many good things if you will just open your positive side

and allow them to reach you. The more positive thoughts that you fill

yourself with, the less negative thoughts can survive. Also you must

be honest with what your bad habits are and where they are taking you.

Identify with them and how they are bringing you down, instead of up.

These are bad habits that you have allowed to run your life. Now, as

you have invited them in, you will simply un-invite them.

Additionally, say no to abusing Drugs, Alcohol and yes FOOD!

In order to strengthen the mental you, you must also strengthen the

physical you. I don`t mean be a body builder or an Olympic athlete. I

just mean a healthier you, a you that you want to be!

Remember whatever it was that brought you down in yourself is in the

past. If you continue to allow the pain to live inside of you, you

will suffer. The past is over and there is no suffering on your part

that will erase it. So get on with life. Search deep inside of you and

bring back who you are. Bring back the person you can smile at in the

mirror. Bring back the person you talk to all the time. Bring back the

person that you were meant to be. Bring back you, and then you will

have your self-worth back!

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I am goodness.

I am all my goodness.

Even when I feel I am less,

I am always more!

David Viscott