14 Mar 2008 02:11:36 | Maya Talisman Frost
We all know there are ways to become a better thinker. We should
read more books. We ought to go to lectures and concerts. We
need to visit exhibits and appreciate art. We can take classes
and expand our horizons through travel.
Blah, blah, blah. Those are the easy answers.
If we really want to become better thinkers, there are three
ways to do it that are guaranteed to get you tuned in to your
brain and everything going on in it.
Ready? Here are the top three secrets to becoming a better
thinker:
#1 Interrupt yourself. That's right. The next time you find
yourself talking for any period of time, or even thinking about
something for more than a few minutes, simply stop. Ask
yourself: "Where did this thought start?" "Have I had this
thought before?" "Have I already examined this concept at
length?"
We tend to reiterate our opinions. We repeat ourselves (like I
did right there). Imagine all the time we spend on thoughts that
just aren't taking us anywhere new and interesting. How many
times have you had the same conversation?
Make a habit of stopping yourself to check in. Steer your
thoughts or your conversation in new directions. Make room for
new ideas by recognizing and interrupting repetitive thoughts,
and you'll make huge strides toward becoming a more excellent
thinker.
#2 Appreciate lulls. You know when you're talking to someone,
and there's a moment of silence before anyone says anything? Our
tendency is to jump in, even if what we have to say is
pointless. We talk for the sake of filling up that few seconds
of silence to keep that pause from becoming uncomfortable.
Next time you find yourself with an unexpected moment of
silence, try this: Smile and nod. You'll look thoughtful, and
you won't fill the air with silly-sounding expressions of
agreement. Once you get good at the smile-and-nod routine,
you'll find that you'll use that moment as a way to be open to
new thoughts that wouldn't normally have room to sprout through
your typical "uh-huh, that is so true" or "yeah, I totally agree
with that" comments.
Appreciate those moments during the day when you have no choice
but to be silent and patient. Waiting for your email to
download? Standing in line at the checkout? Riding in an
elevator? Fill the lull with observations. Look around. Notice
scents. Pay attention to lighting. Listen. Think of these pauses
as opportunities to sharpen your senses. Enjoy a Da Vinci
moment.
#3 Define Your Life Philosophy. Quite frankly, I don't
understand how this one gets so neglected in our culture. We do
a whole lot of talking about being authentic, honoring our
individuality, and finding our true passion. Well, how can
anyone be true to themselves if they haven't taken the time to
figure out who they are? If you don't know your values and
beliefs, you're never going to get to where you think you ought
to be.
A defined life philosophy serves as a road map. It gives you
landmarks to recognize, navigation tools to guide you, and a
clear destination. Just like the greatest road trips, you may
end up going in a completely new direction that's nowhere on
that original map. That's okay. But knowing your starting point
is the most crucial part of any journey.
Fate, birth, death, love, freedom, responsibility, morality,
faith, destiny--these are the concepts we need to explore in
order to develop and define our own unique life philosophy.
Thinking about these ideas is the coolest thing we can do. We
feel alive and connected whenever we dig deep into the Real
Stuff.
Don't shy away from delving deeply. It's the only way to develop
as a thinker and as a human.
Take these three secrets--interrupting yourself, appreciating
lulls, and defining your life philosophy--and run with them.
Pick one as a New Year's resolution and commit yourself to
mastering it.
Vow to become a better thinker in 2004. It may be your most
meaningful--and enjoyable--resolution ever!
About Author :
Maya Talisman Frost is a mind masseuse. Her work has inspired
thinkers in over 70 countries around the world. This article
appeared in the Friday Mind Massage, a free weekly ezine serving
up a satisfying blend of clarity, comfort and comic relief. To
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