14 Mar 2008 02:11:36 | Terri Arnold, MS (Spicy Grandma)
10 RED FLAGS IN DATING RELATIONSHIPS
When starting a new relationship, many women (and men as well)
tend to overlook some behaviors in their new partner that do not
bode well for the future. Then, down the road, comes the
exclamation ‘If I had only known...’. As a Psychotherapist who
has worked with mostly women and a few men in the field of
Domestic Violence, during counseling sessions we can always
trace back unpleasant and also dangerous character traits to the
very start of the relationship.
Here are some ‘Red Flags’ to watch out for in a new partner.
1)He makes decisions about where to go with little or no input
from you.
2)He belittles your opinion when the two of you are alone and
may call you names.
3)He makes disparaging remarks about you in front of others and
may talk about you as if you were not there.
4)He may be rough during love-making and make you engage in acts
you do not like.
5)He does not want to spend time with your friends or family and
insists you socialize with his people.
6)He will not acknowledge your areas of expertise and may put
down what you do in the workplace - ignore any of your
accomplishments.
7)He may openly flirt with other women and then accuse you of
being jealous when you object.
8)He gets angry and loses his temper over trivialities. Stays
angry for a long time and attempts to blame all arguments on you.
9)May hit walls when angry.
10)One of the main factors is that he comes on very strong in
the beginning of your relationship - sweeps you off your feet -
and wants an exclusive relationship too quickly. Many women feel
flattered at the intensity of the man’s seeming need for an
immediate connection and consequently overlook the
inappropriateness of it.
*This should not be confused with ‘love at first sight’ where
one or both parties feel an instant connection - without any of
the aforementioned behaviors.*
There are many other factors that could be listed - but if the
man in your life begins displaying the above qualities - realize
it will not get better, only worse. He will likely be unwilling
to discuss his emotions openly and feel that women are the
inferior sex.
If this describes your man, run - do not walk - out of his life.
The next step will likely be physical abuse.
About Author :
Terri Arnold, MS (Spicy Grandma) has been a Psychotherapist for
over twenty years. She has owned and operated a brick and mortar
dating service and has also helped abused women thru individual
and group counseling to improve their self esteem, leave their
abusive relationships and lead more fulfilling lives. Terri
invites you to visit her popular personalized and informative
50+ dating community at http://www.spicy-senior-singles.com. 
