10 Mar 2008 06:23:09 | Susan Dunn, MA, The EQ Coach
EQ isn’t just a “designer” fad that’s going to fade, and many
are interested to see what directions it will take in the coming
years. Here are some of my predictions:
1.Emotional Intelligence will become a household word. Parents
will actively teach their children emotional intelligence along
with their manners, chores and life skills. Children will learn
to accept and welcome their emotions, talk about them, label
them correctly, manage them, and choose appropriate responses.
2.Parents will demand the inclusion of an EQ program in day
care, public and private schools, and universities. They will
demand EQ credentials for nannies, childcare providers, youth
workers, spiritual leaders, and teachers. 3.We will move beyond
diversity to multiculturalism; working and living with people
from different backgrounds and cultures. We will therefore have
to rely more on the universal "language" of emotions to reach
commonality and understand what’s going on. We will have to rely
more on nonverbal communication. 70-90% of communication even
between two people who share a mother language, is nonverbal.
4.One person will ask another person "How are you today?" and
instead of not listening to the predictable and meaningless
response of "fine," they will listen carefully as the other
person tells them how they are feeling emotionally, physically,
mentally, and spiritually. The person asked the question will
know how he or she feels in all these areas and be able to
articulate it, and the listener will understand the information
and know how to use it. It will smooth the inner world for each
of them, and therefore smooth the working in the outer world.
5.As globalization and the rapid exchange of masses of
information continues to increase, we reach critical mass, and
have to rely on our intuition and nonverbal communication
skills.
6.From this massive cultural blending and exchange (culture is
learned; not carved in stone) we will extract the
health-promoting practices and adopt them. We will wipe out what
Mother Theresa termed the worst disease on earth – “the
isolation in the West.” People in the West will no longer be
ashamed to “admit” they “need people”. (And we do not need
people to be in the same room with us, we need emotional
connection with people and healthy interdependence.) We’ll be
looking at why wellness statistics in some other countries
surpass ours in the US and adopting some new customs! 7.The
“family” will expand. Proverbs around the world tell us that the
feet go more easily where the heart is. Predictions for the
future are that nearly half of working adults will be both
single AND over 40. Businesses will recognize the need for a
more emotionally intelligent workplace, as un-paired adults
working longer hours dominate the work scene, who will need more
emotional and social connection at the office. Corporations will
understand the benefits of establishing an emotionally
intelligent culture in their office.
8.Science and Spirituality Blend. Alliances such as the work the
Dalai Lama has done with brain researchers at the University of
Wisconsin will be commonplace. Technology will improve and there
will be more and better ways to measure and quantify data about
emotions and the brain. 9.The Left and the Right will Also Meet.
People will actively work to develop both their left and their
right brains, and the connection between the two. There will be
programs for children and adults available in the schools, at
work, through agencies, coaches, and faith organizations that
teach how to do this.
10. Intuition becomes mainstream. Because the volume of factual
information will be overwhelming, and the problems more complex,
we will rely more on intuition, an EQ competency. 11.Immune
deficiency diseases and stress will continue to increase, so
there will be an emphasis on the wellness benefits of emotional
intelligence. The so-called "negative" emotions weaken our
immune system, which is our health. Therefore understanding
emotions and emotional self-management is crucial. Treating the
"emotional" component of a disease or illness will be accepted;
it will be the norm. Medical care in the US will be moving
toward the Eastern model with its emphasis on prevention.
Insurance will cover EQ-type programs. “Stress management”
program s will be replaced by EQ Programs. Individuals will be
given a discount on their insurance for developing their EQ,
just as we are now given a discount on our home insurance for
installing a fire alarm, or a discount on our car insurance for
taking defensive driving or having air bags. Resilience, an EQ
competency is the air bag for our stress tolerance.
12.The legal system will incorporate this knowledge.
Court-mandated programs for repeat offenders will broaden from
"anger management" and "Twelve step" programs to include, or be
replaced by, EQ programs. 13.The statement that "anger kills"
will be taken seriously, particularly the effect of anger on
men. Studies regarding emotional management, heart attacks and
men, such as the one at Duke University Medical Center and be
incorporated into wellness programs. 14.The average EQ profile
for men and women is the same, but they differ in how they do
with the different competencies. With increased EQ abilities and
better communication between the sexes, along with recognition
of the vast health benefits of a viable marriage that nurtures
both parties (and the children), the divorce rate will finally
stabilize and start to diminish.
15.The use of prescription medications for emotional illness
will start to decline as people learn how to manage their
emotions better, experience less stress because others do as
well, and atmospheres at home and at work are achieved that are
conducive to wellness.
16.Corporations will have active anti-mobbing programs and
schools will have anti-bullying programs. 17.The senior worker
will be highly sought after because EQ will be valued, and EQ
generally increases with age. Resilient seniors with good EQ
skills are committed to lifelong learning. Their continued
ability to 'build' their brains combined with their EQ
competencies makes them relatively stress-tolerant, and
excellent leaders, managers and team-players. With increased
wellness, many will chose not to retire. Work will continue to
be team-oriented, and at least one "senior" will be considered
obligatory on any team. 18.Business recruiters will replace the
term “soft skills” with “EQ skills” and demand them in
candidates. 19.EQ courses will be a mandatory part of the core
curriculm for medical school, law school, and business school.
EQ seminars will be offered for CEUs for doctors, lawyers,
teachers, psychologists, and other professionals.
20.We will welcome a Diversity of Psychological Type.
Introversion will be recognized as a legitimate personality
style and living and work conditions will be adjusted to
accommodate both introverts and extraverts.
Interest in EQ is international. In fact, in a recent group of
EQ coaches I trained (through Internet and teleclasses), we had
participants from Bermuda, New Zealand, and China as well as
different parts of the US. I routinely receive inquiries from
all over the world. It’s not uncommon to hear clients and
coaches say, “This is the missing piece.’” It may well be the
glue that holds together the pieces of our world in the coming
globalization and multi-enculturation.
French Jesuit Pierre Teilhard de Chardin said many years ago:
“The day will come when, after harnessing the ether, the winds,
the tides, and gravitation, we will harness for God the energies
of love. And on that day, for the second time in the history of
the world, man will have discovered fire.” To rework it a
little, it could be that we will be able to harness, for the
betterment of all the people in the world, the positive energies
of well-managed emotions and better health.
About Author :
Susan offers coaching, Internet courses and ebooks around
emotional intelligence for your personal and professional
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