18 Feb 2008 03:52:58 | Cathy Goodwin, Ph.D.
When faced with a decision, clients often say, "I can't make a
mistake this time," or, "I want to be sure I'm doing the right
thing."
There are no guarantees, but here are some ways to improve the
odds.
1. Assess your strengths, limitations and values before you
begin.
2. Ask friends and colleagues, "I'm thinking of doing X. If you
heard that I tried X and succeeded, what would be your response?
If you heard that I tried X and failed, how would you be likely
to explain the reasons for failure?
3. Are you feeling especially depressed, isolated, vulnerable or
scared? These feelings often lead to decisions we regret later.
Deal with the feelings or take an intermediate step that will
take you to a different emotional place.
4. Talk to at least three people (six would be better) who are
doing what you want to do (or living where you want to live).
Ask tough questions: How did they get there? What worked and
what didn't? How has the field (or the location) changed since
they moved? What was their toughest challenge?
Be negative. If you've gotten this far, you've already looked at
the positive side.
5. Create best case and worst case scenarios. Describe in detail
how you would deal with each.
6. Create a safety net based on your own personal comfort zone.
Some people sleep soundly when they don't know where they will
get the next mortgage payment. Others toss and turn when their
income falls below six figures to the left of the decimal point.
Be honest. If you're scared you will be paralyzed and a sense of
need will drive away business.
7. Stay focused but not necessarily on a single goal. In the
early stages, you may want to explore two or three avenues
simultaneously.
8. Don't give up your power. When you start to feel intimidated
by advice, remind yourself that you are in charge of your life.
9. Break your goal into small steps. Make a short visit before
you make the final move. Find a client or two before you open
the doors to your business. Take courses before signing up for a
degree.
If you have chosen an all-or-nothing goal, strengthen your
safety net.
10. As you begin moving toward your goal, pay attention to what
happens. Do things fall into place? Does a funding source appear
out of nowhere? Does a friend-of-friend offer help?
An increase in your own energy can mean you're on the right
track -- or simply that you are enjoying a change from your
recent experience. Interpret with care.
About Author :
Cathy Goodwin, Ph.D. author, career consultant, speaker "When
career freedom means business" http://www.movinglady.com
"helping midlife professionals move to career freedom"
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