08 Mar 2008 12:28:06 | Rose DesRochers
"That which we call a rose by any other name would smell as
sweet "My name has to be the most Cliché of all. Though I have a
beautiful name everyone expects me to be sweet. A Rose Is a rose
is a rose. She must be sweet correct? Wrong! I am so tired of
labels. Why must we place people into nice neat categories?"
Look at that black man over there, I bet he is in a gang, lock
your doors tonight!" or how about”look at that woman over there,
she is dressed pretty sexy. I bet she is easy."
It has gotten so bad that we do not even see the effect that
these labels have on society. If you stand up for women values
then you must be a feminist, if you think the majority of men
are pigs then you must be a lesbian, if you write erotica
literature than you must be a tramp, if you have male friends
then you must be cheating on your husband.
Let us look at more labels. How about the label lady, how many
times have you heard someone say that a lady wouldn’t say that.
Well who said I was a lady? How about the label administrator,
administrators are supposed to be all business. There client can
talk to them in any disrespectful manner that they please and
the administrator is never to loose their cool. I admit someday
when I receive those nasty emails I just want to tell them right
where to go, thank God for delete.
What about the gender label alone placed on Women? That all
women are sex objects. Sorry I have more than breast and
ovaries. I also have a brain. I don’t need to be half dressed
and sell myself to get the message out there. Then there is the
label that we put on men and women of a different race or
religion. How many times have you discriminated against the
entire country of Iraq because of their leader? What about those
who live in Iraq who stand in support of no violence.
How about the label placed on overweight people? That kind of
label alone can prevent overweight people from losing weight and
result in low self esteem. Warning overweight people about the
dangers to their health is one thing but labeling them is
another.
How about the label on people who suffer from depression? The
kind of label “nutcase” can result in the depressed person not
seeking help with their depression as they don’t wish to be
labeled crazy or a nutcase.
When did we start labeling everything and every person and force
them into categories?
Let us look back to our high school days; we had Goths, punks,
jocks, preps, nerds, head bangers, loners, floaters and geeks. I
always wanted to be more popular and with the "in crowd" at
school, but finally I realized there was no gold at the end of
that rainbow. Let us look at some of those labels that we give
people in high school. Those labels can stick with you right
into adulthood.
Why are we so judgment and quick to label people? How do we
stop? If all people are created in “God’s image”, why are we so
quick to put down and judge what he has created? Maybe it is
time we labeled our feelings towards others and not labeled
them. Let us look at it once fat always fat, once a thief always
a thief, once alcoholic always an alcoholic.
Let us face it people can change and some of these people don’t
deserve these labels at all. When we label people we refuse to
put faith in God and in people. It is time that we stop branding
people. I encourage all to stop labeling people because as long
as we have these labels we will have a judgmental society. We
might as well bend over and let them put a large brand right on
our behind.
“A Rose Is a rose is a rose.” Well guess what this Rose has
thorns and keep labeling me you’ll see how sweet I am.
About Author :
Rose DesRochers, Canada admin@todays-woman.net
http://www.todays-woman.net Rose is a published author and web
columnist. She is also the founder of Today's Woman a supportive
online community for men and women over 18.