08 Mar 2008 12:27:47 | Charlie Badenhop
Do you often get yourself upset and feeling less than fully
confident, as part of your preparation for facing a daunting
challenge? You can improve your performance if you let your
somatic intelligence lead the way."You move too much to be
effective." Tamura sensei softly shouted at me. "You need to
give your opponent a clearer target to strike at."
We were in the middle of studying how to defend ourselves from
multiple attackers in an Aikido class for senior students in
Japan.
Five young college students rushed at me once again, and once
again I struggled to cope with them.
"OK, take a break." Tamura sensei said. "In order for the five
attackers to actually hit you they have to first reach you. Your
job is NOT to run away from them. You need to create a spacing
that leads them to all try and grab or hit you at the same time.
Think of the attackers as needing to pass through a gate. If
they all try and rush through the gate at the same time they
will block each others efforts. Move less, do less, and be calm.
Give them a clear target that they all reach at the same time."
I had heard similar remarks in the past, but accomplishing this
in the heat of the moment requires a moving calmness that takes
a while to get the hang of. You know in your head what you are
supposed to do, but once your heart starts beating faster and
your opponents are bearing down on you, you find it really hard
to believe in what you are being told.
"Think of it this way." sensei said. He pulled out a cloth that
he used to wipe away his sweat and said, "Here, take this away
from me."
As I grabbed for the cloth, he more or less handed it to me.
Just as I was beginning to get a good hold on it he let go of
the cloth and grabbed onto my wrist and placed me in a painful
hold. I immediately let go of the cloth, and he picked it back
up with one hand as he continued to keep me subdued with his
other hand.
"You see." he said, "I am not defending the cloth, I am
defending myself. Better to give you the cloth, and then I have
both hands free to do as I need."
"When you move less you offer your opponents a clear target.
When you offer them a clear target you will be able to
understand how they are wanting to attack. They will attack you
in the same manner you reached for my cloth. Confident they will
accomplish their mission, because you have made it easy for
them. At the last moment, just as they begin to strike or grab,
take the target away from them. They will be surprised, and you
will have the opportunity to do whatever is necessary."
He got up and invited the five students to attack him. He moved
very little, and it was as if he was making each one of them
thread themselves through the eye of a needle. Just ever so much
of a movement made by him, made them just miss their target.
"This is what happens often in our every day life." he said.
"You feel like you are faced with a daunting task, and you make
your task harder by moving about needlessly and losing your
composure. Breathe deeply, be calm, and know the right moment
will present itself to you if you have the faith to wait. Don't
force the issue, and don't force the timing. Trust in the
moment, and trust in yourself. Take the initiative by doing
nothing."
You ARE capable. Give yourself the opportunity to excel by
trusting in the moment and trusting in yourself. Wait calmly,
and you will find that the necessary answers appear before you.
Little by little... with lots of practice... and endless
patience. Only move when the moment is right. Breathe deeply and
begin at the beginning.
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