24 Feb 2008 12:33:29 | Kathy Gates
Ever find yourself delaying and delaying on something until it
becomes a crisis? That's when Procrastination has taken charge
of your life -- instead of YOU being in charge of your life.
Procrastination is as natural to human beings as eating. It 's
easy to do things we want to do, but the things we find
difficult or unpleasant are what we put off. And sometimes
delaying a little bit here and there is not a big deal. But if
procrastination is habitual for you, and is causing things to
happen in your life that you don't want to happen, it's time for
a new sheriff in town.
Simply, procrastination is just a habit of making the wrong
choices. It's choosing to take a nap instead of mowing the lawn.
It's deciding to watch "Friends" instead of working out. It's
opting to socialize with a co-worker instead of working on a
project. It's cleaning off your desk instead of getting prepared
for a meeting. It's "I'll do it later".
Now there's nothing inherently wrong with any of these choices.
As an adult you have the luxury of choosing how you behave, and
choosing your own responsibilities. And we all have
responsibilities that we don't particularly care for. But if you
allow Procrastination to make choices that aren't good for you,
or that you don't really want to make, then it's time to put
your Procrastination Buddy on a leash.
"Just Do It" may be a great marketing slogan, but in real life
we often need a little bit more to work with. To conquer
Procrastination, you will need to change the behavior that works
against you achieving the desired results. Remember that you are
changing a habit, and it will feel uncomfortable and unnatural
at first. But with practice, you can teach Procrastination that
it is not welcome in your life. Here are three ways to do this.
1. When you recognize a particular task is difficult for you and
that you continually put it off until the last minute, try
designing a system to handle it, instead of just "putting out
the fire" when it becomes a problem. For example, if you're
always putting off or talking yourself out of your gym time,
consider setting up a buddy system, so that you know you're
going to meet someone. Or make a date with someone to come over
to your house to work out with you - a trainer, or a friend. By
doing this, you have set up a system that will pull you forward
when you're willpower is low.
2. Determine if Procrastination is signaling you that you have
made a mistake in your choice. If you find it difficult to go to
work in the morning, perhaps you are in the wrong job. If you
find that you don't want to go home in the evening after work,
it may be that you are living in a place that is not healthy for
you. Don't continue a mistake. Admit the mistake to yourself
first and others (if necessary), and make the necessary
arrangements to make it right. One of my clients was a senior in
college receiving a degree in Electrical Engineering. He was
having difficulty finishing projects, doing homework, studying
for tests. His parents believed that he was afraid to go out
into the "real world". But as we talked, it became apparent that
he had never wanted to be an engineer and had allowed others to
make those choices for him. He was spending all his time working
in a restaurant where they were teaching him how to cook. As
soon as he recognized that he had made a mistake, he was able to
tell his parents how he really felt, and make the change to get
the training to be a chef.
3. We all have things we're good at and things we prefer to do,
and Procrastination can also signal that it is task that you
really don't like to do. Ask first, does it have to be done at
all, and second, does it have to be done by you. Consider
delegating the task to someone who would enjoy it, so that you
can concentrate on things that you would devote more creativity
and energy to. Personally, I struggle with keeping exercise in
my life. So instead of learning things I didn't find
interesting, I hired a trainer who shows me what to do and helps
me move forward consistently. I delegated that job to him, and
now, I don't have to think about it anymore.
Finally, REWARD yourself for a job well done. This is very
important and a step that a lot of people ignore. A reward can
come in any form you choose, from a simple affirmation to
yourself, to buying yourself a treat. Realize that the ultimate
reward for taming Procrastination is that by being in control of
what you do, and finding ways to do it efficiently, you have
given yourself more time to enjoy your life.
About Author :
Kathy Gates, Professional Life Coach, believes that "Life
Rewards Action". She helps people set priorities and goals, take
actions, make changes, and reshape their lives. Visit
www.reallifecoach.com, email Kathy@reallifecoach.com, or call
480.998.5843