18 Feb 2008 03:51:59 | Maya Talisman Frost
Kasia is a talented landscape designer who speaks several
languages, and when she jokes about being a "Polish princess"
it's because she actually has the pedigree to support that
claim.
That's not why she's amazing. What's remarkable about Kasia is
her ability to play with words in a creative way.
You don't have to speak five languages in order to play with
words, but I'm guessing that playing with words is pretty
helpful when you're trying to learn five languages! So, let's
take a page from Kasia's multilingual notebook and see how she
plays with one particular word in English.
The word? Money.
Now, Kasia could rattle off the appropriate word for "money" in
more than five languages if asked, but what she focuses on is
tweaking that word so that it loses whatever negativity,
scariness, or other baggage it might have for her.
So, whenever she hears or says the word "money" she
substitutes it in her own head with the word "monkeys"--and
watches how that completely shifts the tone.
Think about it. What if whenever you said, "I don't have enough
money for that" you instead said, "I don't have enough monkeys
for that"?
Or how about this: "counting money" or "saving money" becomes
"counting monkeys" or "saving monkeys" instead.
Suddenly, those retirement plans and college savings programs
don't seem so scary. In fact, they start to sound kind of fun
and interesting.
Now, I'm not saying you can give up on the concept of money
altogether and just joke around about the idea of financial
security.
No, no, no. I'm saying that you can use this quirky little
mindfulness technique to help you lighten up about an area
that may cause a great deal of stress or frustration for
you.
Money can be a pretty malleable concept, and depending on how we
were raised (and a whole bunch of other factors), we develop our
own sense of its value, importance, purpose, and possibilities.
Substituting the word "monkey" for "money" allows us to become
more aware of the number of times per day we hear, see, or say
that word, and it helps us zero in on the physical and
psychological responses we may have as it triggers our own
particular reaction.
Listen as you and others say the following phrases:
"If only I had enough monkeys for that!"
"I'm saving my monkeys to buy _____."
"I need to make more monkeys."
"When I have enough monkeys, I'll live the life of my dreams."
"It seems like I'm constantly running out of monkeys."
"My husband and I are always fighting about monkeys."
and my personal favorite:
"Monkeys don't grow on trees, you know."
I once spent a winter studying primates at Bucknell University
in Lewisburg, Pennsylvania. I stood outside in the snow for
hours making little notes about the Japanese snow monkeys I was
observing. I became quite attached to them by simply watching
them interact with each other.
They had their grouchy days, just like humans, but overall, they
were lighthearted and playful even in their old age. And their
demeanor could shift dramatically when one of them would
initiate play--suddenly, there was much chasing and chattering
before they all settled down again for a group grooming session.
In other words, things were unpredictable, but even
during chaotic moments, they seemed to recognize that soon
enough, they'd be hunkered down together quite calmly.
Money can be like that. You try hard to control it, but whether
you invest in the stock market, real estate, college tuition, or
orthodontia, there are times when you wonder why you bother at
all. Just when you think things are going smoothly, something
comes along and zaps a huge chunk out of your bank account.
Start viewing money management as monkey management, and
you'll begin to feel lighter about the whole process of saving
and spending. There are benefits to controlling your finances,
no doubt about it. But there are also advantages to seeing money
as an unpredictable and even amusing character that sparks
greater mindfulness and helps us see what matters most.
Try a little monkey mindfulness whenever you write checks or
make a deposit. Picture them having a swingin' good time in
your bank account, and grin a little even as they leave the
compound.
There will be others climbing in soon enough.
About Author :
Maya Talisman Frost has taught thousands of people how to pay
attention. Her playful and powerful eyes-wide-open approach to
mindfulness has been featured in over 100 web and print
publications. To read her free special report, "The Dirty Little
Secret About Meditation," visit
http://www.Real-WorldMindfulness.com