In Pt. 1 of this article I broke down the trait of kindness for you. The second most desired trait is intelligence.

This is where it gets really, really interesting. When it comes to choosing mates for long term relationships we are smarter than we even know. We chose mates based on 8 types of intelligence, not just the one or two IQ tests measure.

Here are those 8 types of intelligence:

1. Interpersonal Intelligence (People Smarts): the ability to understand other people's intentions, motivations and desires. We are attracted to people smarts people because they relate well, have many friends and are cooperative. They are also sensitive to our feelings, fears, moods, temperament, motivations and intentions. They are genuinely empathic, and genuinely concerned about what is happening to us moment by moment.

2. Linguistic Intelligence (Word Smarts): the capacity to use language to express what's on your mind. Human courtship is largely through the use of words and people who are good at thinking in words and using language to express and appreciate life's beauty and complexes are very attractive because they excite, please, convince and stimulate us by the way they use words to convey information.

3. Musical Intelligence (Rhythm Smarts): the capacity to think and communicate using rhythm. This is what I like to call the Elvis Presley Phenomenon. Men and women with this trait have the unusual ability to make the rest of us feel what they feel, become one with them, and together with them. Their song becomes "my/our song" because we feel "connected" to them in a deeper and more primal way. We even want to take on their identity - amazing! And to think I always wanted to be Michael Jackson - before the plastic surgery!

4. Bodily/Kinesthetic Intelligence (Body Smarts): the capacity to use your whole body as intelligent communicator of ideas, emotions, desires etc. We're attracted to people with this trait because body smart people are body expressive, they have good timing, coordination and reflexes, they like physical contact and are very responsive, they have exceptional control of their bodies and as a result excellent in using their bodies in the bedroom - or where ever you prefer to do it..

5. Mathematical Intelligence (Logic Smarts): the capacity to understand the relationship between cause and effect and manipulate numbers, quantities, and operations. We attracted to people with this intelligence because of their ability to think and reason deductively and inductively. They are usually organized good planners and most of us enjoy some level of certainty. They are also good at handling and managing money and financial investments.

6. Naturalist Intelligence (Jungle Smarts): sensitivity, respect and understanding of the delicate balance and deep relationship between the nature within and the nature outside (other creatures and features of the natural world). Although we've come along from the "jungle days" our Psychological brains are still programmed to be attracted to people who can effectively deal with their surroundings. People who are savvy about their environment make us feel "safe and happy" because we know we can always count on them to introduce us to the mysteries and wonders (nice restaurant, discount store, important people and connections etc) and protect us from physical harm.

7. Intrapersonal Intelligence (Self Smarts): having an understanding of yourself; knowing who you are, what you can do, what you want to do, how you react to things, which things to avoid, and which things to gravitate toward. We are drawn to people who have a good understanding of themselves because they tend to know what they can and can't do, and to know where to go if they need help. They can be relied on to take care of us when we can't take care of ourselves.

8. Existential Intelligence ( Life Smarts ): the ability to be sensitive to, and have the capacity to pose and ponder larger questions such as the meaning of life, why are we born, why are some people evil, why do we die, what is consciousness, or how did we get here etc. We are attracted to people with this intelligence because they are fully aware and appreciative of the world we live in - its diversity, complexity, and wonder. And if we are open to it, they take us to places that our fearful minds are usually afraid to go.

Come to think about it. It seems to me that we're not that very different from our ancestors because "survival selection" still shapes how we chose a mate and who we find attractive. If you've been focusing your energies elsewhere like in pick-up lines, tricks and techniques, you are riding in the wrong banana boat. Why not just focus on developing the traits of kindness and intelligence and let "survival selection" take its course?

My interest is in - how we can take advantage of this knowledge so that when a man or woman comes looking we will be chosen as the desired mate. How can we best position ourselves so that his or her survival instinct radar zooms on us- Zap! You are the one I want!

I have a few ideas on my website on how this is possible. This is a quest, one which I intend on taking all the way back to discovering every little secret our ancestors used to attract more mates and higher quality mates. I'll share with you what I find out.