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23 Feb 2008 03:21:36 | David Wood
Time to Risk More (Note to reader: As always, of course you need
to be willing to take all consequences of your actions.) 100
people aged 100 were asked: “What do you regret most? What would
you do differently?” The majority answered: “I wish I had risked
more”. We regret the things we don't do, far more than the
things we do. Fear STOPS us living. We get a sense of
security.... which can be upset at any moment anyway. Control is
an illusion - we can't control events. So it’s a sad joke on us
humans that the people who try hardest to live in their comfort
zones get upset the most. Once we accept that we can’t control
life, and that comfort is not very fulfilling, we are free to
risk. What can happen? Rejection, moving into a smaller home,
losing our partner, breaking an arm, losing a job we like etc.
But above all we fear looking silly, foolish, or failing at
something. What would your life be like if for the past 10 years
you had lived without fear? What if life is a game, and we've
forgotten? We attach significance to everything - no I can't ask
her out because XXXX, I shouldn't apply for that job - I
wouldn't get it. I'm not going to take singing lessons - I'm not
any good. If you feel you are at risk of regretting not fully
living your life when you lie on your death bed, I invite you to
complete the following exercise: Optional Exercise: Write down
three areas where you play it safe. Pick one area where you are
willing to risk more. Play a bigger game. Live LIFE! (Is it
dating? Communication - telling the truth ALWAYS! Going on a
holiday - backpacking through South America? Making a commitment
- moving in/marriage? LEAVING a relationship!!? Pick one, and
share it with a friend. Top Ten Suggestions To Risk More (Note
to reader: As always, of course you need to be willing to take
all consequences of your actions.) 1) Tell the truth, regardless
of the consequences 2) Say ‘no’ when you feel ‘no’ 3) Ask for
what you want in your job (e.g. location, pay rise) 4) Go for
the job you REALLY want 5) Ask out that guy/girl you REALLY want
to go out with 6) Ask for something you REALLY want in your
relationship. 7) Move to where you REALLY want to live 8) Say
‘yes’ to something with an uncertain outcome. 9) Book an
adventure outside your comfort zone (e.g. horse riding, white
water rafting, sky diving, sailing.) 10) Be vulnerable to
someone you’re arguing/in conflict with. Enjoy, David Wood David
Wood is a Professional Life Coach, and author of the powerful
Free Download: '50 Life Coaching Questions to Take Control of
Your Life and Help Your Clients'. He helps coaches, consultants,
speakers and trainers to build their businesses via his popular
ebook: "10 Super Coaches Share Their Secrets" and his audio
ebook: "Getting Your First 50 Clients". "David Wood is a
personal and business coach, and an original founder of the
International Coach Academy - a global coach training school"
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