22 Feb 2008 03:50:19 | Ruth Houston
With infidelity reaching epidemic proportions, every woman
should learn how to recognize the telltale signs of infidelity.
The future of her relationship could depend on her ability to
spot the telltale signs in time. In view of the rapidly rising
divorce rates, and current statistics showing that 50% to 70% of
men cheat on their mates, a wife can no longer afford to be the
"last one to know."
Every woman’s personal library should contain a reference book
on how to recognize the warning signs of infidelity. "Is He
Cheating On You? - 829 Telltale Signs" is a comprehensive guide
which lists practically every known cheating sign. The 800+
signs of infidelity in this book are divided into 21 categories
so a woman can easily locate the signs that apply to her mate.
What’s unique about the warning signs listed here is that once a
woman knows what to look for, any of these signs can be easily
found using only her eyes and ears, her personal knowledge of
her husband, and the information provided in the book. No
special skills or equipment are required.
Each of the 21 categories is explained below along with the
number of telltale signs listed under that category. While some
women make it a point to check each of the 21 categories, others
will only check the particular categories that seem to apply to
their marriage or their mate. To insure that no one overlooks an
important telltale sign, some of the signs (about a dozen) are
listed under more than one category.
For example: “He always calls a certain female to share the
special events in his life.” This sign is listed under Telephone
Tip-Offs and again under His Behavior Around Other Women.
“He starts showering you with gifts or buying you flowers for no
special reason” This sign is listed under How He Relates to You
and also under Gifts.
“You find deposit slips in his possession for someone else’s
bank account.” This sign is listed under Financial Affairs as
well as under Physical Evidence.
Despite the title, "Is He Cheating On You? - 829 Telltale
Signs". actually contains 950 telltale signs. Additional signs
were added before the final version of this infidelity book was
printed. Readers continue to send in telltale signs they have
personally discovered which did not appear in the book.
Continue reading for details on the 21 major categories of
telltale signs. When you finish, be sure to visit
http://www.IsHeCheatingOnYou.com for more information on
cheating husbands and signs of infidelity. Remember you can’t
afford to be the last one to know.
1. PHYSICAL APPEARANCE - 76 telltale signs A man having an
affair (or even thinking about having one) will want to make
himself more attractive. He will begin to enhance his appearance
in some way. Be alert for changes in his wardrobe, his grooming,
his body, and his personal hygiene. These are usually the most
visible signs of infidelity. If he embarks on a drastic
self-induced makeover, it’s probably not for you. More than
likely he’s trying to attract or impress someone else.
2. HOW HE RELATES TO YOU - 70 telltale signs The way your
husband relates to you can provide many telltale signs. His
involvement with another woman will cause him to treat you
differently -- even on a subconscious level. This is one of
those areas where a wife can pick up signs of infidelity that a
private investigator might otherwise overlook.
3. CONVERSATIONAL CLUES - 70 telltale signs What your husband
chooses or refuses to talk about can alert you to his
involvement in an extramarital affair. He may mention new
people, places and things, while the people, places and things
he normally talks about are no longer a part of his
conversation. Even his tone of voice can be an important
telltale sign.
4. WORK HABITS - 39 telltale signs Work is commonly used as an
excuse to account for large blocks of time away from home. Men
often use their jobs as a cover for their extramarital affairs.
Your husband’s work habits will undoubtedly change as his affair
unfolds. Be on the lookout work-related telltale signs.
5. DAY-TO-DAY BEHAVIOR - 92 telltale signs We are all creatures
of habit. We all have a routine that we usually follow each day.
A man who is cheating will display changes of some kind in his
normal patterns of behavior. Pay close attention to any
deviations in your husband’s daily routine. These deviations are
telltale signs.
6. FINANCIAL AFFAIRS - 52 telltale signs Affairs cost money. If
your husband has a lover, he’ll want to wine her, dine her,
entertain her and buy her occasional gifts. No matter how
carefully he tries to cover his tracks, sooner or later this
will be reflected in the family finances. Stay alert for
financial signs of infidelity.
7. TRAVEL - 27 telltale signs Your husband may not always be
traveling for legitimate reasons. Even if he is, he may decide
to combine business with a little pleasure. Travel affords a
cheating unfaithful husband a unique opportunity to cheat away
from prying eyes.
8. PERSONALITY OR BEHAVIORAL CHANGES - 36 telltale signs Be
alert for changes in your husband’s attitude, personality or
behavior. Whether they are drastic or subtle, changes of this
type are often an indication of infidelity.
9. ABSENCES - 39 telltale signs Affairs generally require a
considerable amount of time. Since there are only 24 hours in a
day, your husband’s absences will become increasingly more
frequent as he tries to steal time from other activities so he
can be with his lover.
10. TELEPHONE TIP-OFFS - 76 telltale signs Illicit affairs
depend on repeated contact; many of which take place by phone.
These telltale signs of infidelity are relatively easy to find.
Many men take the risk of calling their lovers from home or
having their lovers call them at home. Many wives (like me)
discover their husband’s infidelity either directly or
indirectly by the telephone.
11. CAR CLUES - 40 telltale signs Your husband’s (or the family)
car can be a rich source of telltale signs. The glove
compartment, car seats (underneath and between), the tire well,
the underside of the visor, the ashtray, the side pockets or
compartments, under the floor mats and other nooks and crannies
can reveal a wealth of information.
12. SEX - 37 telltale signs Be alert for any type of changes in
the frequency or the quality of your sex life together. Most
important of all: If you suspect your husband of having an
affair, take steps to protect yourself. Do not put yourself at
risk for HIV/AIDS, herpes or e other sexually transmitted
diseases.
13. EATING HABITS - 31 telltale signs This is an area that wives
usually overlook when checking for telltale signs. But your
husband’s eating habits can be influenced or affected by his
lover. Without even realizing it, he may develop a preference
for the type of food she eats, the way she likes her food
prepared or the kind of restaurants in which she likes to eat.
These are the types of telltale signs it would never occur to
him to conceal.
14. SMELLS AND TASTES - 21 telltale signs Each person has his or
her own unique smell or taste. You may be oblivious to it until
it becomes replaced with something else. Pay close attention if
your husband smells or tastes “different,” or if something in
your home or car just doesn’t smell “right.” It may warrant
closer investigation.
15. INVASION OF YOUR HOME - 22 telltale signs It's not uncommon
for a man who's cheating to invite his lover to his home. When
this happens, it’s not unheard of for lovers to leave personal
items behind--sometimes deliberately, for an unsuspecting wife
to find. You will usually find evidence in your bedroom or
bathroom if another woman has been in your home while you were
away. But telltale signs of infidelity may turn up in other
areas of your home, as well.
16. GIFTS - 19 telltale signs Be especially vigilant around the
times of the year when gifts are usually exchanged. During the
holidays and various other times throughout the year, you may
find gifts or cards hidden around your home or in the car.
Receipts or credit card bills for gifts may turn up shortly
before or after Christmas and Valentine’s Day.
17. COMPUTER USE - 30 telltale signs It’s common these days for
a cheating husband to use e-mail to communicate with his lover.
Some of the telltale signs in this category may also be an
indication of his involvement in an online or cyber affair.
Don’t take this lightly. These affairs can be as harmful to your
marriage as the real thing. Though they may not involve sexual
contact, the emotional attachment can be extremely strong, and
can quickly progress from cyberspace to physical reality.
18. CELL PHONES AND PAGERS/BEEPERS - 28 telltale signs Today’s
technological advances make it easier for a husband to cheat on
his wife. But it’s also easier for a husband to get caught while
trying to make contact or stay in touch with his lover.
19. PHYSICAL EVIDENCE - 32 telltale signs Many times there’s
physical evidence just waiting to be found. Check your husband’s
wallet, his pants or jacket pockets, his desk or dresser
drawers, the wastepaper basket, his closet shelves, the floor in
the back of his closet, the garage, his study, filing cabinets,
his workshop, his toolbox or any place else you can think of.
Keep your eyes open. You’ll be surprised at the kinds of
physical evidence of infidelity you can find.
20. HIS BEHAVIOR AROUND OTHER WOMEN - 71 telltale signs Studies
show that a man is most likely to have an affair with someone he
already knows—a woman he comes in contact with on a regular
basis – a neighbor, a coworker, a family friend or business
associate. If you’re observant, you may be able to determine the
identity of your husband’s lover by the way he behaves in her
presence, or by how she behaves around him.
21. ACCIDENTAL SLIPS-UPS OR DISCLOSURES - 57 telltale signs
Sometimes you get lucky and find out what your husband has been
up to by accident, or through some strange quirk of fate. An
accidental slip-up on his part or on the part of someone else
can clue you in to what’s been happening behind your back.
Excerpts taken from "Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale
Signs" For more information visit www.IsHeCheatingOnYou.com
© 2004 Ruth Houston All rights reserved.
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