22 Feb 2008 03:50:19 | Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein
Spring is here at last! The season brings with it an opportunity
for continued personal growth, stimulated by a sense of life
renewing itself around us. We see growth of every kind reflected
in our environment in the spring. Tiny seeds and bulbs blossom
into colorful arrays of yellow, purple, and pink flowers and
plants and the grass becomes green. Suddenly one day we look at
the trees and see soft green leaves. Children seem to leap ahead
in growth, outgrowing clothing and changing shoe sizes. One day
in the supermarket there are blueberries from central New
Jersey, not flown in from California.
For most of us, we find our senses heightened as warmer
temperatures and refreshingly long days beckon us outdoors.
Whether sitting outside on a bench, a porch, taking a walk or
playing a sport, we become attuned to all the smells, sounds and
sights that we associate with spring and the way our bodies feel.
Spring is a time for growing optimistically! A sense of hope is
in the air. Hardly a person does not respond to positive
feelings on certain spring days. We all talk about spring fever.
If we look carefully at our reactions, we can see that THE
ENCHANTED SELF is at work. Outside, breathing the spring fresh
air, it is easy to recall an earlier positive spring memory.
Perhaps it is remembering yourself racing your bicycle down a
hill on a spring day, or coming home exhausted and hungry after
playing baseball. Maybe it's the exciting feeling of a crush in
the seventh grade combined with smelling honeysuckle or lavender
as you walked home together. The images are boundless. Even for
those of us who experienced difficult growing up days, we still
have positive memories often awakened by our senses this time of
the year.
If you let yourself enjoy each new spring day by "being there"
rather than just "doing," then you can have the joy of not only
being in the moment but also of rekindling wonderful earlier
memories.
In terms of growing optimistically, it is often these earlier
memories that can serve as a jumping off point for your own
positive growth. You might remember how you felt roller-skating
on a spring day. Perhaps this memory was triggered by a walk you
had yesterday. How can you recapture the exuberance and
enthusiasm you felt roller-skating many, many years ago? Perhaps
it is time to walk consistently everyday. Perhaps it is time to
buy a pair of roller blades and learn to use them. Perhaps it is
time to develop another form of exercise, or maybe you would
rather have the pleasure of helping to teach a child or
grandchild how to roller-skate. The ways to reinvent your past
into positive states of mind and body again and again are unique
to you. Don't give up your opportunities to grow optimistically
in these glorious months,
My message to you is to honor yourself, to honor your memories
and let them pleasure you as you navigate through the spring
months. Try not to focus on the unpleasant aspects of earlier
days. Look for the "positive" memory traces associated with a
smell, a taste, or an awareness that is rekindled by the
blossoming of spring.
About Author :
Dr. Holstein is the originator of The Enchanted Self and a
psychologist since 1981. She is the author of two books: The
Enchanted Self, A Positive Therapy and Recipes for Enchantment,
The Secret Ingredient is YOU! Dr. Holstein speaks on radio, and
appears on television in NY and NJ. She gives lectures,
seminars, retreats and audio interviews on LadybugLive.com and
is in private practice in Long Branch, NJ with her husband, Dr.
Russell Holstein.