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22 Feb 2008 03:14:30 | Sri Hari
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Here is a quick peek at how communication skills can be enhanced
massively by utilizing it to communicate with our inner
selves.
1. Build your Self worth:
Getting a snapshot of our inner self and communicating with it
is the stepping stone for lasting success. We may have to tweak
that picture a little to make it better. After all the inner
torment many of us have gone through, this is high time we dive
in for a quick look and fix. How can we do that? Many successful
people believe that building one's self worth is the best
investment one can make. They have always emphasized on the
goodness and importance of giving. Most of the people look at
this idea with scoff and feel that they can give out only when
they more than enough, a typical indicator of lack of self
worth. The only way to build self worth is by doing good to
others and by giving. The good news is that you need not give
away money all the time. You can give your time; donate food,
blood and lots of other things.
Important: The Intention of giving should be to satisfy
oneself and not for appreciation or publicity. It is an act to
build your self worth. If you keep searching for approval of
others, you will be chasing a mirage. If you actually begin to
work toward self approval and build your self worth, you will
automatically get all the approval or recognition that you need.
This is the natural way and we all know, the best way to do
anything.
2. Interrupting and Empowering: The Right way to
use...
Most of the communication skills courses tell us not to
interrupt. I think they are leaving out an important and natural
power. Interrupting need not be only in a conversation. It has
many garbs. You may be interrupting your sleep to read this
article and some times, it is a good thing to do. So instead of
casting away it as an unnecessary behavior, utilize it in the
following way.
Due to the ritualistic living that we are undergoing, it is
quite easy to adjust ourselves into a stereotype and react to
circumstances. This is one of the reasons everything stays
mediocre instead of the Grand. We often interrupt or grand ideas
and empower mediocrity because it is familiar and we won't be
seen as fools. If you reverse this process, i.e. interrupt
mediocrity and empower creativity, you will have lot more
satisfaction and success. Next time you catch yourself thinking
of a problem interrupt that thinking and empower your self to
look for the solution rather than keep staring at the problem.
Who says learning communication skills can be boring? We get a
whole new dimension don't we?
3. Choosing your Direction:
Most of the well meaning gurus of modern life have taught us to
have goals and I also talk about this on my communication skills
website .Some of the gurus have gone to the extent of telling us
to create the reality in our mind and live it until it manifests
in the real world. This is good thing to do and it does work. We
have to understand that it is a creative process, and we should
not use our logical and rational thinking to destroy this
process. It is necessary to have goals in life as goal posts, as
indicators and route maps. But, not as the final destination.
Many people get confused with goal setting and set themselves up
for disappointment. All our goals should be aimed at inner
satisfaction first and then external manifestation. It will be
lot easier when you take the tension off a destination and
create a goal post for yourselves.
To sum up, Build your self worth and master your internal
communication. Use the power of interruption to the max and
finally, take off destinations and put up goal posts. When you
have these three criteria with you it's like mastering the
accelerator, gears and brake of you fine tuned engine. Drive
wherever you like. Your communication skills will be awesome and
powerful.
About Author :
Sri Hari has been developing new insights in the field of
communication skills helping thousands break the mould and enjoy
a happier life. Get a
taste of his unique perspective at his Communications skills website
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