22 Feb 2008 06:31:02 | Nan S. Russell
As a frequent traveler, my goal for each trip is to travel
light. Despite thoughtful planning, sometimes that goal is
shattered when I go to close the suitcase and realize I need a
larger, or even second one. I can't always get my packing right
and end up taking more than I need. When that happens it's
frustrating. I hate lugging extra baggage and feeling encumbered.
Work is like that, too. We often bring too much baggage. It may
not look like baggage, but it weighs us down just the same. It's
disguised as past relationships with bosses; previous work
experiences; mind-talk about whether we can or can't do
something; how we've been treated in work (and life), or how we
think we have. And usually there's at least one duffle bag
stuffed with our expectations.
I've found in twenty years of management most people bring
suitcases full of self-doubt, old patterning from old
relationships and self-fulfilling prophesies to work every day,
and it stifles them. Most people let past work experiences
dictate their future ones. So if they've worked in three
different jobs or companies, those three job experiences are
packed into the suitcases they're lugging. Some people end up
lugging dozens and dozens of them.
They're like the travelers in this story I heard. One day a
young man stopped his car at the side of the road as he entered
the township limits. An older woman paused from her gardening as
he approached. "I'm thinking of moving to this town," he told
her, "and I was wondered if you could tell me what the people
are like here?" "Well," she said, "what were the people like
where you lived before?" "Demanding and competitive and not very
helpful," he said. "Well," she told him, "I think you'll find
people the same way here."
A little while later another man stopped and approached the
woman. Again she was asked what the townspeople were like and
again she asked the traveler what his experience had been where
he lived before. "Oh, the people were great. Everyone was
helpful and supportive – a real community." "You'll find people
the same way here," she said.
People who are winning at working are like that second traveler.
They know in work (and life) you tend to get what you expect.
And if they're encumbered with emotional baggage and poor
expectations, they get poor results. Instead, they follow advice
like Deepak Chopra's, "Always expect the best and you'll see
that the outcome is spontaneously contained in the expectation."
People who are winning at working are one suitcase people. Like
a seasoned world traveler, they've learned what essentials to
pack. They bring to work only those skills and experiences that
will positively impact their work and future. They leave the
rest of their baggage behind. Want to be winning at working?
Travel light.
(c) 2005 Nan S. Russell. All rights reserved.
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