22 Feb 2008 12:03:28 | Maya Talisman Frost
You've got a lot to store in that brain of yours. Sometimes you
need to remind yourself to remember something. The most
effective way to remember is to choose your triggers wisely.
Post-its work great, but I'm all for simplifying things even
further. By choosing to make a certain behavior a trigger for a
particular thought, we can skip the paper and adhesive and get
right to the important stuff.
The trick is to be intentional about it. We tend to hop in the
shower and let our minds wander to all the stuff we're supposed
to do. We go about the process of soaping, shaving, and
shampooing without paying much attention to what we're doing. We
jump into our cars each morning, absorbed by our thoughts. We
wash the dishes, sort the laundry, wait in line at the gas
station, stand at the grocery counter, and vegetate during
commercials without noticing what we're thinking. By
incorporating some simple mindfulness techniques into our daily
routine, we can focus on our intentions and create lasting
changes in our brains.
We've already learned that in order to get our brains to work
for us instead of against us, we must come up with present-tense
statements that we would like to be true, and we have to repeat
them to ourselves daily. Spend some time coming up with two or
three one-sentence statements about how you want to feel.
No fair using numbers. This isn't about setting sales goals or
salary amounts or even the number of pounds you want to lose.
Make a statement that simply describes how you want to feel
about your life right now.
Here's a list of possible statements:
"I am filled with joy and excitement each day." "I feel
confident, relaxed, and open to whatever the day may bring." "I
have plenty of time to accomplish whatever I need to do." "I
have plenty of energy to enjoy my free time." "I attract plenty
of money for all my needs." "I am surrounded by loving people
who want only the best for me." "I am fit, healthy and active."
"I am calm and mindful of all that arises in and around me."
Your brain needs to hear these positive statements, even if you
think YOU don't need to. Humor your brain, okay? Give it some
happy food to chew on. Allow your mind to mull things over
subconsciously.
Brain research tells us that we need to see it, say it and hear
it. If at all possible, say your statements out loud if only in
a whisper. Watch yourself in a mirror while you do it. Hear your
voice saying the words. Visualize what it looks and feels like
when each statement is true. The more senses you engage, the
more quickly your brain will absorb your statement.
Remember that your mind doesn't sort thoughts into neat piles
marked "real" or "imagined". Everything goes in and is processed
in the same way. You must feed your brain what you want to
believe. We all do a great job of spooning in the negative
thoughts, so why is it too much to ask to dish out a few
positive ones?
Once you've got your statements, then what? How do you remember
to repeat them in a consistent way?
Choose your triggers. Select a certain habit or activity that
you engage in every single day. It can be something as simple as
brushing your teeth. Any activity that gives you about 30
seconds of time to focus will work. It helps to choose an
activity that is somehow related to your intention statement.
For example, let's say that you want to feel less rushed. Think
of a trigger related to time. Hitting the snooze button? Looking
at your watch? Waiting for your bus or train? Don't choose ALL
of these-you won't remember them all. Instead, choose one single
action to be your trigger for repeating that statement. Think
"time" whenever you engage in that activity, and repeat your
statement: "I have plenty of time to accomplish everything I
need to do." Or, you could use that trigger to think "relaxed"
and repeat "I am relaxed and unhurried."
Use the language that works best for you, but make sure it is
present tense and positive--say "I am relaxed" instead of "I'm
not stressed." Neuroscientific studies indicate that if we say
the word "stressed" our brains will zero in on that and skip the
"not" part!
Once you've selected it, start creating the habit of repeating
your statement to yourself whenever you engage in that behavior.
Want to work on your attitude about money? Every time you open
your checkbook or use your credit card, remember "plenty" and
repeat your intention statement about it. "I attract plenty of
money for all of my needs." Maybe you want to spend less money.
In that case, think "save" and say "I save money wisely" or "I
am thrifty and frugal."
Looking to improve your approach to your wellness? Repeat your
intention statement each time you take the first bite of a meal
or lace up your exercising shoes. Think "healthy" and repeat "I
am fit, healthy and active."
Longing to find a loving relationship? Each time you see an
affectionate couple or someone you find attractive, remember
"love" and state your intention: "I am loved deeply and treated
lovingly."
It's easy to get caught up in the negative thought cycles we've
all developed during our lives. Our brains already know the "I'm
never going to get ahead financially" story and the "No matter
what I do, I can't lose this weight" story. Our minds are
getting way too many repeats of the "Other people fulfill their
dreams, but not me" fairy tale.
Ack. Turn the page. New story!
Dish up some positive intention statements, and make sure they
become a regular part of your routine by attaching them to the
triggers you feel will work best for you. Make it easy for your
brain to remember to remember.
And okay, use Post-its if that helps.
About Author :
Maya Talisman Frost is a mind masseuse. Her work has inspired
thinkers in over 80 countries. To subscribe to her free weekly
ezine, the Friday Mind Massage, visit
http://www.massageyourmind.com.