18 Feb 2008 04:11:09 | Megan Tough
Have you ever had one of those days when you’ve asked yourself:
“Why am I doing this”? Do you hate Mondays and hang out for
Fridays? Or do you say to yourself: it’s not forever, and the
money is good”. If work has lost it’s meaning for you, and your
care factor is hovering close to zero, then you can join the
thousands of other people who are endlessly running on the
treadmill.
Being on the treadmill is an insidious condition – people are
endurance athletes when it comes to running on this particular
machine. It’s not hard to build up stamina, in fact there is a
simple 3-step formula that will guarantee your ongoing success:
Step 1: go to work each day Step 2: complete all activities and
tasks Step 3: show all the acceptable outward signs of
participation and enthusiasm
then repeat ad infinitum……
Inwardly you might be having a conversation like: Are you
serious? This is so boring, or No, not again!
The problem with the treadmill is that it never slows down or
turns off unless the person operating it presses the Stop button
(or fails to complete Steps 1 to 3 successfully). It’s the same
with our lives – nothing changes unless we actively choose to do
something different.
The ability to jump off the treadmill takes work, and courage.
Often we think it’s easier to keep doing what we are doing than
to think about how to make a change. But each of us has the
power to make a different reality – after all, we made the one
that we’re in now didn’t we?.
Recognise that you’re on the treadmill. This is the first and
most important step. Being on the treadmill often means doing
things on autopilot. By ignoring how we feel, we are able to
continue with our endurance session. Once you allow yourself to
acknowledge that you’re not that crazy about where you are, then
you will be motivated to make a change.
Get some support Human beings don’t like change, so jumping off
the treadmill into an uncertain place is usually not an option.
In today’s world there are all sorts of people who can help you
sort through some different options - coaches, career
counselors, mentors, business people and so on. Connect with
someone who can support you as you make your transition.
Springclean your mind When we are on the treadmill, we are
usually reacting to things going on around us, rather than
acting out of choice. So make an active choice to take a rest, a
vacation, talk it out with someone you trust, blow off steam, do
whatever it takes to get some perspective about your situation.
Just this simple step will make you feel more in control, and
can help to streamline the energy you'll need for the changes
ahead.
Take responsibility The reality is that you can’t change anyone
else’s behaviour but your own. So now is a good time to stop
blaming others for what’s happened to you. You are where you are
today because of choices and decisions that you made. Accept
that, and choose to make decisions in the future that take you
towards a more satisfying life.
Take a long term view When was the last time you thought about
where you personally wanted to be in 5 or 10 years time? We get
so caught up in “doing” things - for the business, for work, for
others – things we think we should be doing, that we take no
time to consider what we really want.
Take the time to think what’s really important to you, and where
you would like to be. What are the core values that you'd like
to base your life around? What do you love to do or to be? What
gives you a sense of purpose? If we haven’t allowed ourselves to
think along these lines, the answers may not come immediately.
For the impatient and perfectionist people reading, this is not
a test – there is no pass or fail. So don’t treat it like one.
The more you know about yourself, the more you will be able to
understand how you would like you life to look.
Design a life, not a lifestyle Do you know what the difference
is between having a life and maintaining a lifestyle? A
lifestyle is something we are told we need - by society,
advertisers, and parents. Life's luxuries, although nice to
have, can be expensive financially and often tempt us to stay on
the treadmill to pay for them! Perhaps the energy spent
maintaining a lifestyle might be better used turning your life
into an expression of who you are. A lifestyle buys comfort. A
life buys satisfaction and contentment.
It’s never too late to jump off the treadmill, so why not get
started today. Life is way too short to be a slave to that
particular machine.
About Author :
Megan Tough, director of Action Plus, works with small business
professionals who are ready to do more than ‘just get by’.
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