21 Feb 2008 02:01:56 | Arthur Zulu
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In a high-divorce society,
not only are more unhappy marriages likely to end in divorce,
but in addition, more marriages are likely to become unhappy.
-- COUNCIL ON FAMILIES IN AMERICA.
When Japanese government officials conceived building an airport
in Narita, little did they know that the airport will later come
to be associated with divorce. Even the engineers and architects
who dreamt up the plan, forgot to dream about wedlocks and
goodbyes. Morpheus, the god of dreams, did not remember it to
them.
Now, the term, Narita divorce has been coined for the newlyweds
who on arrival at Narita Airport after a honeymoon, immediately
head to the court to file divorce papers. Bad word!
Marriages have been known to hit the rocks, the night after the
weeding day. Some may wait to happen after the birth of the
first child, while others may choose to divorce after their
golden jubilee.
The story of broken marriages -- marital bliss turned marital
misery, is worldwide. And this is happening despite an army of
psychologists, psychiatrists, clergymen and other counselors
offering advice on marriage, including a horde of publications
on the subject. People have even written best-sellers, offering
advice on broken families. Ask Inyanla Vanzant, the author of
the book, YESTERDAY I CRIED.
Lets get some statistics. Britain has the highest divorce rate
in Europe (4 out of 10 marriages), Canada and Japan (1 out of 3
marriages), Zimbabwe (2 out of every 5 marriage) and Spain (1
out of 8 marriages.) Also in Australia, divorce rates has
quadrupled since the 1980s, and in the United States and other
lands, teenage mothers, and children born out of wedlock, has
been on the rise.
In other countries, like Germany, the traditional family has
totally been abandoned. In that country, single persons and
individuals account for a majority of the families. And in
France, people are marrying less, and divorcing more.
The effect of broken families -- the oldest human institution --
is already telling on us. What with the violence that we see
around us today?
Family disintegration has led to the fall of great empires like
Rome and Greece. May it not lead to the end of our civilization!
But why are married couples increasingly getting divorce
certificates or simply living as roommates, or what has been
called emotional divorce? Because they started their marriages
with the wrong foot. And head to the wrong people to seek advice
-- marriage counselors.
These series of articles will help you to get your marriage to a
good start, and stay married. Because it will tell you Gods
view about marriage. And since God is the creator and originator
of marriage, he is the best authority on this matter.
In these series, you will find answers to questions that you may
have asked such as: How can I find a compatible mate? What are
the rules of dating? How do I know if I am ready for marriage?
What happens on the wedding day? What is needed for a successful
marriage? How should disagreements be settled? What is my role
in the family? How can a husband get his wifes respect? Why
does a wife need her husbands love? Who is the decision maker?
What about the children? And many more. . .
But first; folks, let us look out for the dangers in a marriage.
Knowing these dangers, like a sailor knowing the location of the
hidden rocks under the sea, will help you to find success in
your courtship and marriage, sex and happiness.
So, what are they?
(To be continued)
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